30 Days to Happiness? Is it possible? Can I really be happier than I am right now. Will some of my problems disappear just by reading a blog? Good questions! Over the next 30 days, through the A to Z Challenge, we will go on a journey to happiness together. There are guiding words that will move us along from day to day and at the end of April, 2014, we can evaluate our progress together. You’ll meet new friends along the way, and get some great ideas for getting the most out of your day! Writers from all over the world will be joining the challenge, and you may want to join us in writing, or just read what others are writing about. You can find the list by clicking the link here. Each day in April we will be blogging about what comes to mind for each letter of the alphabet, taking Sundays off, we will be finished by April 30. Let’s get started!
A is for Ask. Each day, I ask the Lord to give me a question for the day. “What question should I ask, Lord.” Before I give you some of my favorites, here’s some questions not to ask:
- Was your hair always that color?
- When is your baby due? (unless you KNOW she’s pregnant)
- Do you plan to start a diet soon?
- What does your therapist think about that?
Seriously, asking questions opens the door to understanding. It shows your interest in people and allows you to find common ground on which to build a relationship if you desire. Here’s a few questions to get you started:
- Do you have family here?
- Do you work in the area?
- What’s your favorite place to vacation?
- What is your favorite. . .?
- Is there anything I can do for you?
The questions above actually follow a little formula I learned years ago. When you aren’t sure what questions to ask, use FORM. It stands for F-family O-occupation R-recreation and M-message. When you ask questions about each of these, you can continue a conversation indefinitely.
Sometimes on a “date night” Larry and I will start with one of these questions and see how long we can go on one subject until we move on to the next. After so many years we still learn things we didn’t know about each other’s lives and views on aspects of life. You can also have a lot of fun while asking questions that begin with “When, where, who, what, why.” A when question might be, “When did you get your first haircut?”, “Where would you like to go, if you could go anywhere in the world for one day.” “Who would you like to meet if you went back in time?”
Two of my favorite questions now are simply, “What can I do for you?” and “How can I help you?”
By asking questions, you are not only opening windows and doors to others, you are opening your heart to receive the happiness that comes by focusing on others.
The most important question you can ever ask is “Jesus, will you come into my heart right now, forgive me of all of my sins, and be the Lord of my life?” And then accept Him by faith because His answer to you is most assuredly, “Yes!” You will have a lifetime of getting answers to your questions because He truly has all of the answers.
Here’s my question for you, “What’s your favorite thing to do?” and “Where are you visiting from?” Please leave your answers in the comments and feel free to ask a question of your own!