30 Days to Happiness: L is for Listen

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LL is for Listen and laughter, but first things first. My guide word, “listen” reminds me to pay attention to what others are saying. I especially try to practice this when my husband, Larry and my youngest son, Jay are telling me things. Learning to listen is going to lead to greater happiness for me and for those I love. It will also have a positive effect on everyone I am listening to because it shows respect and gives value to people. Talking comes so naturally to us because there is a running conversation going on in our head all of the time. All we have to do is open our mouth and our thoughts are sure to come out. This is sometimes how we end up with our “foot in our mouth.” Learning to listen can be extremely beneficial as it requires our mouth to be closed and our ears to be open thereby minimizing the possibility of saying something we would regret.

Listening is not only a skill we can learn, it is a gift we can give.  Instead of thinking about what we want to say, we need to hear what others are saying, remember it,  and ask them questions to gain further insight. It  takes a conscious effort to hear and remember what people say. It shows true caring when we ask more about it  or make a reference to it later. What better way to show that we care and to bring happiness to others than to really listen?

My 8 Quotes

On Listening

  1. Listening2 “Friends are those rare people who ask how we are, and then wait to hear the answer.”― Ed Cunningham
  2. “Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person, they are almost indistinguishable.”― David Augsburger
  3. “When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen.” –Ernest Hemingway
  4. “Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” —Stephen R. Covey
  5. “The art of conversation lies in listening.” –Malcom Forbes
  6. “You cannot truly listen to anyone and do anything else at the same time.” -M. Scott Peck
  7. “We have two ears and one tongue so that we would listen more and talk less.” –Diogenes
  8. “The word ‘listen’ contains the same letters as the word ‘silent’.”― Alfred Brendel

How do you rate your listening skills right now? Is there room for improvement? I’d really like to hear how you feel about this!A to Z Badge

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8 Responses

  1. This is beautifully and simply written. Thank you for the wonderful reminder.

  2. Oh, this is marvelous!! Thanks for this today.

  3. Nice post. I actually copied this quote onto my Facebook page earlier today and thought you might enjoy it: “I think one of the best feelings in the world is when someone remembers something you said. Whether it was something from yesterday, a week ago, a month ago… It’s just like “Wow you actually listen to me.”

    • Angela, Thanks so much for sharing that quote. I was just reading it, and it is so true. It’s something I must really work on!

  4. Great post and a reminder we all need from time to time.

  5. This has definitely been one of my weak pints but I am really working on it! My favorite quote was “Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” –Stephen R. Covey

  6. My favorite quote was the one about, “Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person, they are almost indistinguishable.” Jay, I think you are a great listener!

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