Every Thought Positive

The post you are about to read was one of the first posts I wrote as I started Dare to Be Happy. Over the last two years I have read probably hundreds of posts from other bloggers, and my eyes have been opened to other sides of the dice, in other words how things look from someone else’s viewpoint. I have come to realize that what is easy for me to say and even do may not be as easy for others.

I am now well aware that what I am suggesting may seem impossible to those who are suffering from chronic depression or other physiological illnesses. I have found some wonderful resources in my reading that I believe would be incredibly helpful to those who need help beyond what I offer here. I offer hope and some suggestions for opening ourselves up to God’s blessings by choosing right thoughts. If you need greater help, I encourage you to check out resources readily available online.

One of the writers I most admire is Seth Adam Smith who is well known for his article, “Marriage Isn’t For Me.” You can visit his site and find a wealth of information about how he deals with chronic depression. He also offers resources for guiding loved ones in the things to say and do to help someone with that condition.

The following is what works for me in staying “out of the hole” and it’s one way that I dare to be happy.

Originally published January 25, 2013

“Every Thought Positive,” These three little words have become my guiding words since December of 2012. That was when I discovered I was in a hole. Because I was not as productive in my work as I had been, I became agitated, frightened, and plagued with a fear of failure. I had previously been able to accomplish what I set out to do, but now the same skill and effort yielded different results.

I wandered around my hole, looking for a way out, trying to figure out where I had gotten off track and how I had gotten into the hole. The answers were not in the hole. The answers were in me.

A light came on one day when I made a comment to my co-worker that I had been on a roller coaster all day, one minute thinking positively, the next minute thinking negatively. My co-worker’s eyes widened with alarm, “Oh, you must never do that! You have to have positive self-talk. Make some reminder cards if you need to, but you have to think positively all the time.”  Every Thought Positive.

At that point, I adopted my guiding words. They became a filter for all of my  thoughts, and they produced results that were nothing short of remarkable! I got my confidence back, and I began to see positive results in my work again.

Is it possible to make every thought a positive thought? If we think one thought every ten seconds, that’s six thoughts in a minute totaling 5,760 thoughts in the 16 hours that we are awake. If we were able to think 5000 positive thoughts in a day, do you think just maybe our days and our lives would be a little more productive? Even if we don’t quite succeed at making every single thought positive, at least making an effort to turn as many as we can in the right direction, would surely be enough to keep us out of the hole.

In the world God created for us, there is love and joy, peace, prosperity, kindness, health, confidence, unselfishness. Why do we entertain thoughts of anger, frustration, lack, illness, fear, and worry? The more we entertain thoughts like this, the more we get of similar thoughts and the misery that goes along with them. We have precious few moments in our lives. God has an abundance of life to pour into those moments. By making every thought positive, we open ourselves up to all He has for us. Here’s how He says it in Philippians 4:8:

Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Philippians 4:8

Today’s Action: Meditate on the concept of “every thought positive.” Begin to recognize and flush out negative thoughts. Replace them with positive thoughts. “I can’t” becomes “I can.” A great way to do this is to meditate on Philippians 4:8 throughout the day.

A happy day to you!


My Big Idea

I had hoped to begin this post with these words, “Strike up the band, roll out the red carpet. My dreams and plans are ready to be rolled out.” After all, last week, “Words from Mom” encouraged us to Dream Big and Write it Down. I gave myself the week to crystallize the things I wanted to accomplish, and I certainly gave thought and prayer toward that end. At this point, however, I am giving myself another week. After all big dreams and plans require a commitment, and we do have that “fear of failure” thing to deal with. In fact that might just be the big goal for the year: eradicate “fear of failure.” I will consider that during the next week. In the interest of grace that has been given for failing to meet my goal of setting my goals, I am giving myself another week, and perhaps another, to crystallize my goals, dreams, and plans.

I will accept a drum roll, however, as I am ready to roll out the big concept for the year:

Radiate the love of God in everything I do like never before.

That is the big idea for the year, the “One Phrase” that encompasses all, the measuring stick that can be used each night as I lay my head upon the pillow to determine if it has been a great day or not. Each letter of the word “radiate” gives me further guidance as to how to implement such a concept.

R is for rest, as in rest in the Lord.

A is for adore,

D for delight, both of which lead me to spend time in worship.

I is for initiate, and

A for activate which calls me to action, to actually do something through which Love can radiate. It could be anything from washing dishes, fixing supper, visiting friends, encouraging others, buying a stranger’s lunch or writing a blog post.

T is for trust and

E for exercise, as in exercise my faith, perhaps even while I exercise my body.

I love my guiding words, and I know God will speak to me through them.

How are you coming on clarifying your dreams? Do you have “One Word” or “One Phrase” for the year? I’m sure if you ask God to give it to you, He will. He wants to be intimately involved in everything we do this year. If you don’t have a “big idea” for the year, you can borrow mine until you get one of your own. Radiating God’s love has got to be a great adventure! I’m looking forward to it every day! Have a wonderful day!

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Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven. Matthew 5:16


Words from Mom: Dream Big, Write it Down

As we stick our toes across the line into 2015, I am excited to announce a new series in 2015: Words from Mom. As the year progresses, I pray there will be times that some words of wisdom will beckon to be shared in hopes that my family will profit from lessons I have learned and are learning. My greatest prayer has always been that my boys and their families love and serve God all of the days of their lives, and that they prosper and are in health even as their souls prosper.

Here you’ll read:

  • things I forgot to tell my kids
  • things I didn’t know to tell my kids
  • things they might not have heard when I told them

These are for you to read, as well, just in case your mom didn’t tell you, or you ignored her when she did. If you find anything of value, you might just want to pass it on to your children as well.

Some of these things might actually be things I learned from them that I want to remind them or myself about. You see, these children of mine are wise beyond their years and delightfully unique in all of their ways. Larry and I have learned as much or more from them as they have from us. God has placed incredible gifts in them, and He has great plans for their lives.

Here’s the first of “Words from Mom” I shared with them:

“Here I am on my way to church to celebrate New Years. Happy New Year to my dearest people in the world. I just spent a couple of hours at home, and I have prayed for you as you all plan your New Year’s goals, resolutions, intentions. hopes. and dreams. Here’s a word from Mom:

Don’t be afraid to set them. Don’t be afraid to write them down. It has been proven that those who write them down accomplish more than those who don’t. Those who choose not to make resolutions because they have heard, “Most resolutions are broken the first week of the year,” might miss out on what might have been accomplished. My plan is if I should  break them the first week, I will pick myself up and start again the next week.

In fact I’m giving myself the whole week of January 1, 2015, to crystallize and make plans and write down my hopes and dreams for the year, my plans and intentions.

So dream big, think big, believe big, and give yourself a lot of room to fall and pick yourself up again and learn from mistakes.

dream big

When we look back, we will be further along this time next year and will have made more progress than ever before. God is in all of this because He’s in all of you. and your hopes and dreams and plans will come from your relationship with Him.
Go for it! It’s going to be the best year ever!”

And you, my friends, take these “Words form Mom” and write down your own goals and dreams. It would be awesome if you could share one of your goals or plans or intentions in the comments so we can all get brave together and step out into this bright New Year with expectation. Praying for you!