The post you are about to read was one of the first posts I wrote as I started Dare to Be Happy. Over the last two years I have read probably hundreds of posts from other bloggers, and my eyes have been opened to other sides of the dice, in other words how things look from someone else’s viewpoint. I have come to realize that what is easy for me to say and even do may not be as easy for others.
I am now well aware that what I am suggesting may seem impossible to those who are suffering from chronic depression or other physiological illnesses. I have found some wonderful resources in my reading that I believe would be incredibly helpful to those who need help beyond what I offer here. I offer hope and some suggestions for opening ourselves up to God’s blessings by choosing right thoughts. If you need greater help, I encourage you to check out resources readily available online.
One of the writers I most admire is Seth Adam Smith who is well known for his article, “Marriage Isn’t For Me.” You can visit his site and find a wealth of information about how he deals with chronic depression. He also offers resources for guiding loved ones in the things to say and do to help someone with that condition.
The following is what works for me in staying “out of the hole” and it’s one way that I dare to be happy.
Originally published January 25, 2013
“Every Thought Positive,” These three little words have become my guiding words since December of 2012. That was when I discovered I was in a hole. Because I was not as productive in my work as I had been, I became agitated, frightened, and plagued with a fear of failure. I had previously been able to accomplish what I set out to do, but now the same skill and effort yielded different results.
I wandered around my hole, looking for a way out, trying to figure out where I had gotten off track and how I had gotten into the hole. The answers were not in the hole. The answers were in me.
A light came on one day when I made a comment to my co-worker that I had been on a roller coaster all day, one minute thinking positively, the next minute thinking negatively. My co-worker’s eyes widened with alarm, “Oh, you must never do that! You have to have positive self-talk. Make some reminder cards if you need to, but you have to think positively all the time.” Every Thought Positive.
At that point, I adopted my guiding words. They became a filter for all of my thoughts, and they produced results that were nothing short of remarkable! I got my confidence back, and I began to see positive results in my work again.
Is it possible to make every thought a positive thought? If we think one thought every ten seconds, that’s six thoughts in a minute totaling 5,760 thoughts in the 16 hours that we are awake. If we were able to think 5000 positive thoughts in a day, do you think just maybe our days and our lives would be a little more productive? Even if we don’t quite succeed at making every single thought positive, at least making an effort to turn as many as we can in the right direction, would surely be enough to keep us out of the hole.
In the world God created for us, there is love and joy, peace, prosperity, kindness, health, confidence, unselfishness. Why do we entertain thoughts of anger, frustration, lack, illness, fear, and worry? The more we entertain thoughts like this, the more we get of similar thoughts and the misery that goes along with them. We have precious few moments in our lives. God has an abundance of life to pour into those moments. By making every thought positive, we open ourselves up to all He has for us. Here’s how He says it in Philippians 4:8:
Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Philippians 4:8
Today’s Action: Meditate on the concept of “every thought positive.” Begin to recognize and flush out negative thoughts. Replace them with positive thoughts. “I can’t” becomes “I can.” A great way to do this is to meditate on Philippians 4:8 throughout the day.
A happy day to you!