Words from Mom: Activating the Law of Focus

focusYou attract more of what you think about.

You get more of what you focus on.

Five More Practical Ways to Activate the Law of Focus in Your Life Today:

  1. Choose to be positive. Be kind to others. Encourage others. Put the best connotation on what others are doing, Instead of criticizing or complaining, assume they have good intentions and mean well. It may not always be accurate, but by giving the other person your gentler responses, you attract more of the same to yourself and more importantly, you bring out the best in them.
  2. Repeat to yourself truth and Scriptures that define what you want. Repeat a short version of what you want hundreds of time. For example, you can say “joy” over and over again or “abundance” or “health” or “wisdom” or “the Presence of God.” By doing this, you are literally building a pathway in your brain so that your brain feeds this truth to your spirit. This is renewing your mind. Romans 12:2 tells us that renewing your mind proves or demonstrates the perfect will of God in your life.
  3. Think about what it looks like. What does “joy” look like? What does “health” look like? Meditate on this. God will work with you on this. Get His vision of it.
  4. Let all negative feelings leave you as soon as you possibly can. You don’t want more of these. If you are upset, worried, distraught, ruffled, frustrated or angry, quickly return to peace. Find the fastest way back to calmness. That is where God is, and He can then, and only then, set  your situations back into alignment with His will.
  5. Get yourself happy. Stay in that happy state where you simply “feel good.” This is the place of peace and trust that we have the privilege of living in. This is the perfect will of God that He wants us to demonstrate. This can be done no matter what is going on in your life or how things seem to be. You can find this place of peace right in the middle of unpleasant situations.

You get more of what you focus on. You can activate this law in your favor for the hour ahead of you, and for the day, the week and years to come.

Philippians 4:8 can be a valuable measuring tool.

“Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.”




Words from Mom: How to Get More of What You Want

What do you want today? Joy, peace, Presence of God, wisdom, financial blessing, positive interactions, God encounters?

This is the second in a series called, “Words from Mom.” What I am about to share with you is one of the most important lessons I have ever learned. My prayer is that my children will embrace it and activate it in their lives in their favor on a daily basis. It is certain that this Law is operating in each of our lives today. We are getting more of what we think about. Sometimes this is subconscious, and other times it is conscious. We can only control in this moment what we are consciously focusing on, but this will affect what our subconscious is believing in the future. This truth can change our lives for the better this very moment.

You attract more of what you think about.

You get more of what you focus on.

Because this law is as powerful as the law of gravity, and just as surely created by God from the beginning of time, here are

Eight Effective Ways to Activate the Law of Focus in your Favor: 

  1. Define what you want. What do you want right this very hour or day? And what do you want big to happen in your life?
  2. Talk to God often about what you want.
  3. Think about what you want.
  4. Imagine what it looks like.
  5. Be at peace about what you want.
  6. Consider that what you want is what God wants for you. If there is any doubt about this, talk to Him about your desires and line them up with His will.
  7. Instead of “waiting on God,” to tap you on the shoulder and say, “Here it is. Here is what you want,” try walking with God toward what you want. He will guide you as you go.
  8. Ask yourself and God, “What can I do right now to bring what I want into my life?”

 For verily I say unto you, That whosoever shall say unto this mountain, Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea; and shall not doubt in his heart, but shall believe that those things which he saith shall come to pass; he shall have whatsoever he saith. Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them. Mark 11:23,24






Every Thought Positive

The post you are about to read was one of the first posts I wrote as I started Dare to Be Happy. Over the last two years I have read probably hundreds of posts from other bloggers, and my eyes have been opened to other sides of the dice, in other words how things look from someone else’s viewpoint. I have come to realize that what is easy for me to say and even do may not be as easy for others.

I am now well aware that what I am suggesting may seem impossible to those who are suffering from chronic depression or other physiological illnesses. I have found some wonderful resources in my reading that I believe would be incredibly helpful to those who need help beyond what I offer here. I offer hope and some suggestions for opening ourselves up to God’s blessings by choosing right thoughts. If you need greater help, I encourage you to check out resources readily available online.

One of the writers I most admire is Seth Adam Smith who is well known for his article, “Marriage Isn’t For Me.” You can visit his site and find a wealth of information about how he deals with chronic depression. He also offers resources for guiding loved ones in the things to say and do to help someone with that condition.

The following is what works for me in staying “out of the hole” and it’s one way that I dare to be happy.

Originally published January 25, 2013

“Every Thought Positive,” These three little words have become my guiding words since December of 2012. That was when I discovered I was in a hole. Because I was not as productive in my work as I had been, I became agitated, frightened, and plagued with a fear of failure. I had previously been able to accomplish what I set out to do, but now the same skill and effort yielded different results.

I wandered around my hole, looking for a way out, trying to figure out where I had gotten off track and how I had gotten into the hole. The answers were not in the hole. The answers were in me.

A light came on one day when I made a comment to my co-worker that I had been on a roller coaster all day, one minute thinking positively, the next minute thinking negatively. My co-worker’s eyes widened with alarm, “Oh, you must never do that! You have to have positive self-talk. Make some reminder cards if you need to, but you have to think positively all the time.”  Every Thought Positive.

At that point, I adopted my guiding words. They became a filter for all of my  thoughts, and they produced results that were nothing short of remarkable! I got my confidence back, and I began to see positive results in my work again.

Is it possible to make every thought a positive thought? If we think one thought every ten seconds, that’s six thoughts in a minute totaling 5,760 thoughts in the 16 hours that we are awake. If we were able to think 5000 positive thoughts in a day, do you think just maybe our days and our lives would be a little more productive? Even if we don’t quite succeed at making every single thought positive, at least making an effort to turn as many as we can in the right direction, would surely be enough to keep us out of the hole.

In the world God created for us, there is love and joy, peace, prosperity, kindness, health, confidence, unselfishness. Why do we entertain thoughts of anger, frustration, lack, illness, fear, and worry? The more we entertain thoughts like this, the more we get of similar thoughts and the misery that goes along with them. We have precious few moments in our lives. God has an abundance of life to pour into those moments. By making every thought positive, we open ourselves up to all He has for us. Here’s how He says it in Philippians 4:8:

Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Philippians 4:8

Today’s Action: Meditate on the concept of “every thought positive.” Begin to recognize and flush out negative thoughts. Replace them with positive thoughts. “I can’t” becomes “I can.” A great way to do this is to meditate on Philippians 4:8 throughout the day.

A happy day to you!


Words from Mom: Dream Big, Write it Down

As we stick our toes across the line into 2015, I am excited to announce a new series in 2015: Words from Mom. As the year progresses, I pray there will be times that some words of wisdom will beckon to be shared in hopes that my family will profit from lessons I have learned and are learning. My greatest prayer has always been that my boys and their families love and serve God all of the days of their lives, and that they prosper and are in health even as their souls prosper.

Here you’ll read:

  • things I forgot to tell my kids
  • things I didn’t know to tell my kids
  • things they might not have heard when I told them

These are for you to read, as well, just in case your mom didn’t tell you, or you ignored her when she did. If you find anything of value, you might just want to pass it on to your children as well.

Some of these things might actually be things I learned from them that I want to remind them or myself about. You see, these children of mine are wise beyond their years and delightfully unique in all of their ways. Larry and I have learned as much or more from them as they have from us. God has placed incredible gifts in them, and He has great plans for their lives.

Here’s the first of “Words from Mom” I shared with them:

“Here I am on my way to church to celebrate New Years. Happy New Year to my dearest people in the world. I just spent a couple of hours at home, and I have prayed for you as you all plan your New Year’s goals, resolutions, intentions. hopes. and dreams. Here’s a word from Mom:

Don’t be afraid to set them. Don’t be afraid to write them down. It has been proven that those who write them down accomplish more than those who don’t. Those who choose not to make resolutions because they have heard, “Most resolutions are broken the first week of the year,” might miss out on what might have been accomplished. My plan is if I should  break them the first week, I will pick myself up and start again the next week.

In fact I’m giving myself the whole week of January 1, 2015, to crystallize and make plans and write down my hopes and dreams for the year, my plans and intentions.

So dream big, think big, believe big, and give yourself a lot of room to fall and pick yourself up again and learn from mistakes.

dream big

When we look back, we will be further along this time next year and will have made more progress than ever before. God is in all of this because He’s in all of you. and your hopes and dreams and plans will come from your relationship with Him.
Go for it! It’s going to be the best year ever!”

And you, my friends, take these “Words form Mom” and write down your own goals and dreams. It would be awesome if you could share one of your goals or plans or intentions in the comments so we can all get brave together and step out into this bright New Year with expectation. Praying for you!